Fellow overthinkers, where you at?
All my life, I have struggled with decision-making. Everything from the question of, “What should I do with my life?” to the life-altering decision of where to eat for dinner leaves me with more anxiety that I’m comfortable with. Like I do with other characteristics typical of those born between September 23rd and October 23rd (requiring balance in order to be happy, for one), I often chalk it up to being a classically indecisive Libra.
But just because I have a not-exactly-thorough explanation of why I’m that way doesn’t mean I shouldn’t challenge or examine it.To my similarly struggling friends, let’s look at the bright side. Pros do exist in this situation– it means we’re rarely rash in our judgments, and as a a result, we put a lot of thought into things. (Pink sparkles or purple sparkles? Oh, I don’t know, just ALL OF THE SPARKLES.)
Another common tendency associated with indecision is agreeableness. (No red squiggly line under that one. Yup, it’s a word. “Agreeability” is not. Moving on…) Which seems good on the surface, until the point where you become merely submissive to what everyone else wants you to do. When offered the choice between two movies, do you respond cheerfully with, “Whatever you want to watch”? That’s pretty harmless, albeit annoying if that’s always your answer. But when applied to just about any other important decision in life, it weakens your confidence in your own abilities. A backbone that remains under-exerted loses its ability to support. There is a difference between asking for advice and asking others to make life’s tough choices for you.
I’ve always admired those who make decisions without the agony I so often feel. Even if they’re ultimately the wrong decisions, as long as they’re not reckless, at least the person wasn’t afraid to make them in the first place. It’s something I’ve often worried will hold me back from doing incredible things, but my fears are lessened by the knowledge that at least I’m self-aware enough to realize I’m that way and have the power to change that about myself.
That’s why the quote above resonates with me so much. The message is simple really: pursue happiness, and happiness with ensue. Oh my gosh, I think I just came up with an (almost) equally as awesome quote. I recently came across another one that I like. And this is for all you overthinkers out there:
The greater the artist, the greater the doubt. Perfect confidence is granted to the less talented as a consolation prize. – Robert Hughes
So for those of you who can relate to my own struggle, take comfort in knowing you’re not alone… and that you’re probably way better off than you give yourself credit for. Screw self-deprecation and doubt. Challenge yourself to figure it out on your own.
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