Becoming yourself

Joyce Carol Oates quote

So much has changed in the past few years, it’s hard not to think I’ve changed drastically, too.

I certainly feel different. Wiser, more thoughtful, unafraid to ask for what I want, adventure-seeking and self-loving. My younger self would be pleased. Pleasantly surprised, even.

But I think Joyce Carol Oates—fabulous woman that she is—said it best when she wrote the line above. At our core, we always remain the same. The potential for all those qualities I mentioned was always within me. It just hadn’t been realized to its fullest yet. And if that’s the case, how much more room for growth is there? I’ll play it safe and say it’s limitless—just in case it exceeds my expectations.

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P.S. Related reading: A woman to aspire to


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  1. I love this quote. I feel the same way. The past few years have brought a lot of heartbreak and confusion and it’s easy to say I’ve become a different woman. But really, I stopped giving a shit about what others thought of me, what was expected of me, what was cool, and so forth. So, really, I’m just peeling away at this person I let other people create…and revealing the true me.

    Great post!

  2. I love that quote! I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, too. I’ve done a lot of “soul-searching” this year and have changed a lot, but only in the way of letting go of things that weren’t ME. By the way, I just noticed the introvert badge in your sidebar, so I’m off to check that out. 🙂

  3. Such a great quote…I’m definitely going to be keeping this in mind! I’ve often thought, “wow…I’ve changed so much since elementary school/highschool/freshman year/etc.” in both good and bad ways. But when I think about it, it really is true that I’ve simply become “more myself”. Sure, some of the not-so-great things have become stronger (I’ve become a bit more introverted since the younger years) but some of the positive things have also grown and evolved along with me. I think going through life and learning and experiencing things molds you uniquely; even two people who experience the same things can be molded differently, depending on their beliefs, ideals, thoughts…you get the idea. I love that I’ve become “more myself” and am proud to be the person I am today!
    ~ Samantha

  4. Yes, exactly. There has been so much growth in the last nine or so years since I’ve graduated college. I wouldn’t be who I am today without all the things that have happened. The freedom and independence I’ve experienced in the last eight months since moving out on my own has been so good for me. It’s made me braver, stronger and more willing to put myself out there. There are so many things I want to do and it’s all within my power to do them.

  5. This is excellent. The interesting part is that it can apply to both the good and the bad; acknowledging that no one is perfect and that the bad and difficult comes along with the good and beautiful. As I become more myself (which can sometimes be a slow and painful process), I have learned to accept my flaws – not to be complacent about them, but to let them exist along with everything else that makes me who I am.

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