Interweb Finds: Sex robots, Crazy Eyes & more

John Mancini Band

It hit me yesterday that it’s mid-June.

No shit, right? But that midway point between last year’s Christmas and this year’s upcoming Christmas always gets me. It doesn’t help that this year in SoCal, it never stopped being summer, save for those occasional fall-like days.

The photo you see above is indeed one of John and me singing. He got a gig at Angel City Brewery (the spot where Rachel and I met for Beer with a Blogger), and I joined him for a couple of songs. It was a blast! I also made vegetarian dinners three nights in a row and did a headstand this week, so overall, I’m calling it a major success.

Here are this week’s interweb finds for your perusing pleasure:

A fascinating long read about… sex robots, among other things. The future of sex in a digital age:

“I ask Levy, a married man, what his wife would think if someone invented a sex robot and – out of academic interest – he wanted to sleep with it. ‘I don’t think she would have a problem from the infidelity point of view,’ he says. ‘I do think she would think I was off my trolley.'”

I’ll just be over here drooling over this pair of gorgeous vintage Fiats.

An interview with Orange is the New Black‘s Uzo Aduba, who plays Suzanne, a.k.a. “Crazy Eyes.” (Goes to show how great of an actor she is that I’m amazed at how down-to-earth she really is!)

One family’s story of raising a transgender kid. I hope how this family embraced their child’s true identity becomes the norm.

Nubby Twiglet’s post, “Stop Playing it Safe,” hits the friggen nail on the head.

I wish I’d seen this gorgeous dome house when I visited Joshua Tree. (It even has its own Instagram account.)

The secret life of an Airbnb host who slept in his office every night to make extra cash.

“An extra $1,350 a month was flowing into my coffers. […] After receiving my first batch of positive reviews, the reservations poured in. Sleep came easier on my camping mat, and I dreamed in eighties montages about being a runaway Airbnb success story. But there is a reason it’s not called Murphy’s Theory.”


And that’s all for today! Happy Father’s Day to all the dads out there—especially mine on the other side of the country. I’m going to soak up the rest of my weekend by eating good food, reading a good book and trying not to stress over the little things. It’s not always easy, but it’s something I’m trying to remind myself of lately.

What are you looking forward to this week?



Leave bland behind: have a damn opinion

don't be a sheep

Do you ever feel like you’re playing things a little too safe?

Have you ever worried about offending people with your point of view (or your occasional tendency to use the word “shitastic”)?

I have. And you know what I think? Screw that nonsense.

Listen, I’m pretty even-tempered. Call it a Libra thing, but I try to see the validity in every argument that seems fair, sane and logical. And while this isn’t always the most productive behavior, I tend to avoid confrontation at all costs. So I’m not what you’d call the world’s most opinionated person.

That said, I’ve got an opinion to share. I’m a little bored with the blogging culture of trying to appeal to a wide audience by pleasing everyone and never coming near anything even remotely controversial. Maybe that’s just where I am as a writer and a reader, but I want a bit of challenging commentary thrown in the mix from time to time.

I believe there’s a simple explanation for why so many bloggers burn out. We’re trying to be happy and creative and professional all the time, and that can be difficult to maintain. For the sake of transparency, we might pen an honest and open essay about our experiences with burnout to feel better and get some encouraging comments in response, but then we go right back to doing the same old thing. Until the next bout of burnout hits.

Don’t get me wrong—I love reading inspirational and light-hearted posts. They brighten my mood and fill my need for passive entertainment. Clearly, I enjoy writing that stuff, too. But if I were new to the personal/lifestyle blogging scene and was toying with the idea of starting my own site now, I’d be under the impression that there’s only one path to success. And I’d probably be so overwhelmed by the notion that everything has been said (over and over) that I might as well not even bother.

But really, I don’t think that’s true at all. All that’s missing is a little flair.

“Be yourself” is such common advice not only from our moms but also from fellow bloggers writing how-to’s on the craft. Those words are so commonly thrown around that they’ve almost lost their meaning. So I propose this saying instead:

Be yourself. ALL of yourself.

Be smart, funny, thoughtful, sincere, inspirational and whatever else it is that truly makes you you. And if you have something to say? Have a damn opinion. Unapologetically.

Let’s stop over-thinking, second-guessing and censoring ourselves, and let’s begin embracing, celebrating and acknowledging our differences in opinions and ideas. I see so many great minds expressing themselves on Twitter calling out assholery and inequality. We should be extending those conversations on our blogs, encouraging discussions in the comments section and not worrying whether someone will disagree. (Because it’s okay if they do.) At the very least, I’d like to see a stronger commitment to the ideas we put out there, rather than wishy-washy language such as “I feel like” or “maybe it’s just me, but.”

You might be thinking, “Yeah, but I’m a design blogger. This doesn’t really apply to me.” I beg to differ.

If you’re a designer who wants to see the chevron trend die already, say so. If you’re a professional photographer who sees novices making the same cringe-worthy mistakes over and over, help them by pointing it out. If you’re a feminist who has a problem with sexist language in an ad or article, call the creators out on it. We’d be doing a service not only to ourselves by doing so, but to the blogging world as a whole. We have so much to say, and it does no one favors when we hold back for fear of hurting someone’s feelings.

I have too much respect for myself and my fellow bloggers to strive for blandness. I intend to take a stance on the things that matter most to me.

How about you? What do you think is worth speaking up about?

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