I’ve had to learn how to be okay with being alone. It used to not bother me in high school, but when I got to college I got to the point where I hated being alone. I felt like I had to be around people all the time, and I’ve been trying to re-teach myself how to be okay with the alone time. I’ve started doing things to help with it, though, and it’s been getting a lot better. Blogging and participating in VEDA this month is giving me an outlet – still connecting with people while embracing the distance and solitude. It’s nice knowing there are others out there who struggle with the same things, so there’s a disjointed sense of community that I love in the online world. But reading and writing would also help if I were to do it more. For some reason, I’ve pulled away from both a lot in the last few years, and it makes me sad. Like you, I want to pick both of them back up and start producing work and ideas through writing and reading all these books I’ve bought and shelved over the years.
Blogging is SO so good for that once you find your niche. I really struggled with that for a long time wondering why I wasn’t fitting in with certain groups of bloggers. (Just like in real life! WAH.) But now that I’m figuring that out a little better, I, too, love the connection you can make with like-minded bloggers, and it’s nice to know you have friends in faraway places.
I have become so much more okay with being alone than I ever thought possible. The boyfriend works a lot and all of my friends are busy bees, so I can often be found doing stuff by myself in my apartment. Sometimes it makes me stir crazy, but honestly, most of the time it just brings me peace. Unless I let the demons in my head take over my mental dialogue, in which case…watch out, world (boyfriend), Rachel is one unhappy biatch. Anyway, I enjoy alone time mucho.
Also, “You can’t be a writer if you don’t write”. Truer works have never been…written. I think of myself as a writer, but I rarely put words down onto paper or hard drive, so I’m not really being truthful with myself. All of the words are in my head. I need constant reminding of that. So thank you.
Silly demons. Your demons and my demons need to get together so they can LEAVE US THE HELL ALONE.
I also need to remind myself of that constantly. This video of Elizabeth Gilbert is great inspiration for that, and I’m one of two people who hasn’t even read Eat Pray Love:
I spend so much time alone and I’ve learned to like it (most of the time). I LOVE that you cooked real meals for yourself and picked up your guitar again – that’s so awesome. It’s really easy to get lazy when no one’s watching!
Being quoted makes me feel like an actual writer! Thanks for linking back to my post . Everything that you did with your alone time sounds so refreshing; I worked a ton last and on the one day that I had off, it was so nice to just be by myself and do things that I wanted to do.
P.S. hooray for making a Facebook page! It made me feel so dorky when I first did it – like, really, I need a page AND a blog for my thoughts? But it’s a really easy way to have people keep coming back!
Glad I’m not the only one. Also, am I the only one who chooses to ignore that Jenna is a 13-year-old (in a 30-year-old’s body) kissing an actual 30-year-old? Umm…?!
I’ve had to learn how to be okay with being alone. It used to not bother me in high school, but when I got to college I got to the point where I hated being alone. I felt like I had to be around people all the time, and I’ve been trying to re-teach myself how to be okay with the alone time. I’ve started doing things to help with it, though, and it’s been getting a lot better. Blogging and participating in VEDA this month is giving me an outlet – still connecting with people while embracing the distance and solitude. It’s nice knowing there are others out there who struggle with the same things, so there’s a disjointed sense of community that I love in the online world. But reading and writing would also help if I were to do it more. For some reason, I’ve pulled away from both a lot in the last few years, and it makes me sad. Like you, I want to pick both of them back up and start producing work and ideas through writing and reading all these books I’ve bought and shelved over the years.
Blogging is SO so good for that once you find your niche. I really struggled with that for a long time wondering why I wasn’t fitting in with certain groups of bloggers. (Just like in real life! WAH.) But now that I’m figuring that out a little better, I, too, love the connection you can make with like-minded bloggers, and it’s nice to know you have friends in faraway places.
I have become so much more okay with being alone than I ever thought possible. The boyfriend works a lot and all of my friends are busy bees, so I can often be found doing stuff by myself in my apartment. Sometimes it makes me stir crazy, but honestly, most of the time it just brings me peace. Unless I let the demons in my head take over my mental dialogue, in which case…watch out, world (boyfriend), Rachel is one unhappy biatch. Anyway, I enjoy alone time mucho.
Also, “You can’t be a writer if you don’t write”. Truer works have never been…written. I think of myself as a writer, but I rarely put words down onto paper or hard drive, so I’m not really being truthful with myself. All of the words are in my head. I need constant reminding of that. So thank you.
Silly demons. Your demons and my demons need to get together so they can LEAVE US THE HELL ALONE.
I also need to remind myself of that constantly. This video of Elizabeth Gilbert is great inspiration for that, and I’m one of two people who hasn’t even read Eat Pray Love:
I spend so much time alone and I’ve learned to like it (most of the time). I LOVE that you cooked real meals for yourself and picked up your guitar again – that’s so awesome. It’s really easy to get lazy when no one’s watching!
It really is easy to get lazy, and I spent the first half of my week doing just that! And then I realized… wait a second. Take advantage of this.
Being quoted makes me feel like an actual writer! Thanks for linking back to my post
. Everything that you did with your alone time sounds so refreshing; I worked a ton last and on the one day that I had off, it was so nice to just be by myself and do things that I wanted to do.
P.S. hooray for making a Facebook page! It made me feel so dorky when I first did it – like, really, I need a page AND a blog for my thoughts? But it’s a really easy way to have people keep coming back!
Thanks for writing such an inspiring post to link back to! Time alone is that much more rewarding when you work so hard.
And yeah, now when I’m on Facebook, I’m networking as opposed to just messing around. That’s how it works, right?
I think I’ve been teary-eyed watching 13 Going on 30 more than once. Just sayin’.
Glad I’m not the only one.
Also, am I the only one who chooses to ignore that Jenna is a 13-year-old (in a 30-year-old’s body) kissing an actual 30-year-old? Umm…?!