15 things you should never feel guilty about

15 Things You Should Never Feel Guilty About

Taking a sick day.

Staying in your pajamas until noon.

Not checking everything off your to-do list.

Changing your mind—for the sake of your heart.

Letting go of commitments that drain you—commitments that could be fulfilled by someone else.

Quitting that job you hate.

Ending a relationship that doesn’t light you up.

Not mourning the way people expect.

Giving the honest opinion you were asked for.

Letting go of friendships that give you no pleasure.

Going back to work after having a baby.

Eating. Anything.

Investing money in something that gives you pleasure—whether it’s a hobby, your education or that one pair of jeans that make you feel really, really good.

Feeling totally, completely and giddily happy.

All the embarrassing, questionable, not-totally-upstanding things you did years ago.


If you screwed up and offended someone or acted selfishly recently—apologize. If your privilege or good fortune is making you feel uncomfortable—lend your work or your words to a worthy cause. And if you’re stuck in a cycle of destruction, self-indulgence or tomfoolery—take the first step to end the cycle.

Everything else? In the words of Taylor Swift (yeah, I just went there)—shake it off.

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  1. It’s also perfectly okay to choose to NOT have a kid. I don’t get why women get crap for choosing to do what they want to their OWN bodies.

    • Amen.

    • Absolutely right, Kristine. I’ve never gotten the concept of feeling guilty for not having a kid unless, of course, one has previously committed to their partner (male or female– it goes both ways) that parenting was something that they had agreed upon. And even then, if someone really has a change of heart, that’s something that both parties should be giving great consideration.

      And a woman’s decision not to have a child is not selfish. Having a child and not making it your Number One priority or being able to set aside your own agenda –great or small– when needed? Now that’s selfish. It’s true that a higher percentage of men are guilty of this, but I’ve certainly witnessed maternal offenders as well.

      You’ve gotta get a license to drive a car, cut hair and even to play your guitar on a street corner. But the most important job in the world, parenting, is the privilege of saints and sinners; geniuses and fools; and the kind- and cold-hearted alike. It’s the chief reason that humankind will always be locked in eternal struggle.

    • Amen!


  2. Such a good list! And the first commenter is totally right.

  3. Yes to this list!!

  4. Yes! I needed this today. I did recently take a sick day when I had food poisoning and felt so bad about it. But I slept almost the whole day and felt a million times better after. I also feel guilty about a few things I did when I was in high school, which sounds so stupid but I just need to comfort myself in knowing I’ve grown from doing those things now.

    I’m going to go feel good now, guilt free!

    • Cassie Paton says:

      I’ve so been there, and I hate feeling guilty for shit I did when I was still in my teens, for God’s sake. No more. Let’s go on living guilt-free lives!

  5. Love this list! Definitely needed it today! I can relate to more than one at this very moment, especially not finishing everything on my to-do list.

  6. Love this list — specifically “Not mourning the way people expect.” I’m curious as to what inspired you to write this specific point though. Although I nodded immediately upon reading this one, I don’t usually think too much about this concept. :/

    • Cassie Paton says:

      It’s strange, it’s something that crossed my mind when writing this list for whatever reason, but there have been times in the past when I was surprised that someone didn’t seem more “sad” after the death of a loved one. And then I’d catch myself and realize I had NO idea what that person was going through and that everyone grieves differently. It’s something I’ve always remembered since. xo

  7. I have trouble with the last one but I’m learning every day to forgive myself and let it go. I’ve made great strides though and have become a lot better at not allowing others to make me feel bad for things I’ve done or had to do at any given moment. I never feel bad about eating any kind of food lol all in moderation! Great list Cassie – Take Care -Iva

    • Cassie Paton says:

      I think it’s so common to feel that way because as we grow older, we (hopefully) become more thoughtful, less selfish people… and then realize what brats we could be when we were younger haha. But hey, learning experiences, right? No need to hold onto the guilt!

  8. Quitting. the. job. you. HATE.

    More people need to follow this one. I just ended a temping assignment at an investment firm because I couldn’t take being near the office manager. Everyone in the office was miserable, yet no one would say or do anything. It was such a toxic environment and I peaced out. It was easy. It was a good decision. Screw all of that unnecessary stress. Being unhappy at your job makes you less able to enjoy life to the fullest.

    • Cassie Paton says:

      Yeah, I’d rather sell all my belongings and move to the woods than stay at a job that makes me miserable. NOTHING is worth it, certainly not when the only person you’re financially responsible for is yourself. RUN. GET OUT. It’s liberating.

  9. Wow, what a strong, powerful reminder. I mean this so genuinely, thank you for this. Spoiling yourself with good food, taking care of yourself mentally and emotionally, those are things that you should NEVER feel guilty about. I particularly love how you ended it <3


    • Cassie Paton says:

      Thank you, Cat – so glad this resonated with you. Of all the things we feel guilty about, taking care of ourselves in any way should never be on that list. Ever.

  10. Beautifully written; I love so much of what you right and this post is perfect. It is nice to have a reminder of the things that we shouldn’t feel guilty about–even though we sometimes do.

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